A Message To Women From A Man: You Are Not “Crazy”
Yashar at The Current Conscience:
Gaslighting is a term, often used by mental health professionals (I am not one), to describe manipulative behavior used to confuse people into thinking their reactions are so far off base that they’re crazy.
This is a really interesting article, and strangely timely for me. I know that I’ve used this tactic myself, although almost always unintentionally – I’m not naïve enough to think that I’ve always been oblivious to the consequences – but I have to say that I also know that I’ve been a victim of it. It’s something I really want to keep in mind in the future, and something definitely worth passing along.
I want to make a note, though, without detracting from the article’s legitimacy. This is not an argument against The Current Conscience, at all, but just a thought.
The more I learn about people, the more I realize that for the most part, we cannot begin to comprehend how others think. Of course, I base most of my discussions in logic and reason, and there’s a lot of common ground, but so much of our lives is based around subjective judgments and emotions, and those can at times be very hard to build rules around.
So sometimes, I find it hard to imagine how, for example, someone could truly dislike a movie solely because it’s based in science fiction. And friends of mine, with whom I share so many tastes and opinions, may never really understand why I love Chumbawamba’s “Tubthumping” so much. That doesn’t mean we’re crazy. But it could certainly make us seem that way, if only just a little.